"There is great pressure being released in the world. Our only refuge will be in Christ. As people become emotional both in the world and in the Church, they will increasingly turn to pastors and leaders for direction. Our directive is to point them to the Lord and not attempt to carry the burdens ourselves. It is the strategy of the enemy to create escalated anxiety opening the door to light strokes, Bell's palsy, and stress related heart conditions. These plans are being brought into the light as a warning and also to identify diabolical ploys set against the Lord’s leaders at this crucial point." Bob Jones

it's the plans of the enemy to upset us so much that we are fighting all the time

as we have been. WE need rules of engagement. We will not fight until thus and so

we can fight about this, not about that.

no name calling.

even though it's hard, REALLY hard to not call each other names, we need to STOP.

WHAT are we doing when we do that???? We are tearing each other DOWN,

The Lord doesn't like it, and satan jumps up and down and claps with glee.

WHO DO WE WANT TO PLEASE????

DO WE WANT TO PLEASE OURSELVES? if so, we will continue on the way we have, because a lot of this name calling and these fights are NOT about TOGETHERNESS.

THEY ARE ABOUT SELFISHNESS. We want our own ways, each of us.

Do we WANT to please satan? the enemy of our souls? The ENEMY of us? HE wants to DESTROY our marriage.

He wants you to not be responsible, he wants me to call you names.

DO you want that? Do I want that? Do we want the other person to feel awful?

NO! Then we need to stop.

STOP saying you are sorry you frustrate me AND stop doing those things!

Do YOU want to please God or satan?

Are we married because satan wants us married?
Are we married because we want to BE married?
Are we married because God wants us married?
Are we married because it's just more convenient?


WHY IN THE WORLD are we married????

WHY are we STAYING married? Convenience? Why? Let's be honest with ourselves AND each other.

We need to DECIDE if we are going to be roommates or lovers.

we need to decide if we are going to continue fighting over WHATEVER, or stop.

Let's write lists of what frustrates us about the other and REALLY try to change. Steve, God is NOT going to swoop in and do it for us. WE have to make this marriage work ourselves by following what God WANTS us to do, HE provides the good ways to do things, how to treat each other.

I think we need to decide if we want to have a marriage the way God wants us to be married, which is making love, and other things.

or if we want to be roommates. And if roommates, then we need to go before God and see what HE says. As far as I know, God did not call me to be a roommate. I've only been one twice in my adult lifetime.

We need to stop fighting each other. Stop being antagonistic to each other.

YOU need to start working together as a team. The onus is on you this year, not me. I've been trying to work together as a team.

We are supposed to be PARTNERS. On the SAME team.

Then why are we FIGHTING against each other all the time????

May 18, 2007, 3:36 p.m. after reading Bob Jones word from Feb. 2004

June 10, 2007. Answer? He's married because it's convenient for him. And sex is NOT in the equation.

Now how do I deal with that?